When Something Feels Off: Recognizing the Warning Signs of Abuse in Young Children

As parents, caregivers, and ministry leaders, we’re called to protect the vulnerable—especially our children. But what happens when a child doesn’t have the words to say, “I need help”? What if they’re showing us in other ways?

At Moses Movement, we believe in paying attention to the silent signals—the behaviors and shifts that whisper what a child can’t yet say aloud. The sooner we notice, the sooner we can step in, bring safety, and begin healing.

The truth is this: Most young children don’t disclose sexual abuse right away. Some never do. That’s why it’s critical that adults are equipped to recognize behavioral and physical red flags.

🚩 Behavioral Signs to Watch For

Children may not be able to articulate abuse, but their behavior often tells a story. Some of the most common signs include:

• Sudden regression (bedwetting, thumb-sucking, tantrums)

• Withdrawal or isolation from family or friends

• Aggressive or overly sexualized play

• Fear of certain people, places, or being left alone

• Clinginess or an increase in separation anxiety

• Loss of interest in previously enjoyed activities

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These signs may not always mean abuse—but they are worth taking seriously, especially if they appear suddenly or without clear explanation.

🩺 Physical Signs That May Indicate Abuse

While physical signs are less common, they can be more telling. Look out for:

• Bruising, redness, or swelling in the genital or anal area

• Frequent urinary tract infections or complaints of pain when using the bathroom

• Blood-stained underwear or clothing

• Unexplained injuries or fear of touch

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If a child expresses that they’re hurting “down there,” or you notice signs of discomfort, it’s time to seek medical attention—and report your concerns immediately.

🧠 Emotional and Psychological Shifts

Sexual abuse impacts more than the body—it deeply wounds the mind and heart. Young children may show emotional distress through:

• Nightmares or sleep disturbances

• Extreme mood swings (anger, sadness, fear)

• Low self-esteem or self-blame

• Sudden fear of being alone or in the dark

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These changes are especially concerning when they occur alongside behavioral or physical warning signs.

✝️ What to Do If You Suspect Abuse

At Moses Movement, we know that responding well is just as important as recognizing the signs. If your gut says something is wrong, don’t ignore it. Here’s how to respond:

1. Listen without judgment.

If a child discloses something, stay calm. Affirm them:“I believe you. You did the right thing by telling me.”

2. Ensure their immediate safety.

Remove them from the person or environment if needed. Do not confront the suspected abuser yourself.

3. Report to the proper authorities.

Call Child Protective Services or law enforcement. You don’t need proof—only reasonable suspicion.

4. Seek trauma-informed support.

Get connected to a counselor, advocate, or organization trained in child sexual abuse recovery. Healing is possible—with the right help.

🛡️ Be a Safe Place

You don’t have to be a professional to make a difference. You just have to be present. Trust your instincts. Ask questions. Stay involved in your child’s world—online and offline.

Most importantly, let them know this:“No matter what happens, you can always tell me the truth—and I will always protect you.”

📥 Download Our Free Resource: Recognizing Red Flags in Young Children

Visit mosesmvmt.org/resources to get a printable checklist of warning signs, conversation starters, and next steps.

🤝 Together, We Can Break the Silence

Our children deserve to grow up safe, seen, and strong. By staying informed and speaking up, we become the first line of defense against abuse—and the first step toward healing.

Let’s keep our eyes open, our hearts soft, and our arms ready to protect.